Sunday, March 24, 2013

What you don't see.

I see you sneering.  Judging my child and me for his behavior.  You see his loud "whispers" in worship, and his wiggles, and his difficulty staying still.  You see how he runs around following worship, often heading back to the sanctuary.  You see and you stop me and let me know just where he and I are going wrong.

But there are things you don't see.

You don't hear him whisper the Lord's Prayer along with the congregation.

You don't see his pride in his Father singing in the choir.

You don't see him sharing stickers with the kids around him who don't have them.

You don't see him wave his Palm with a Hosanna.

You don't hear the questions he asks after worship.

You don't see him thank the Pastor for the Children's gift.

You don't see how he listens in worship and how parts of the sermon come up in his play later.

You don't see him smile in welcome to all members of the congregation.

There is a lot that you don't see.  Instead you see what you want to see and nothing more.  You are entitled to your opinion on me and on him, but I ask you, who is truly being the better example of Christ's love here.

And frankly, regardless of your answer, I happen to believe that God gives enough grace for all of us. Hosanna, Blessed is He who Comes in the Name of the Lord.


Anonymous said...

you are an amazing mom and it sounds like you are raising a fabulous little goat. someone forgot their Matthew 19:14 (yes i had to look it up) Robin

Melinda Ott said...

Oh Liz, I'm so sorry that this happened. When I used to work with youth (MS and early HS), I had one kid who was the most spiritual teenager I had ever met. He is actively living his faith and curious about learning more. When he was young, he was the not the model of ideal behavior in church. He wasn't horrible (although there were many who said that he was a total nightmare), he was just a young kid with a lot of energy whose parents were making the effort to raise him as spiritually as possible.

Little boys can be handfuls (mine is half the age of yours and, oh, uffda!) but you are doing the RIGHT THING by bringing him to church.

Whoever decided to give you a talking to ought to (but probably isn't) ashamed of themselves. However, our actions and words reflect only back to ourselves and your actions show that you are a caring mother of a lively young boy. I'll not comment on what the other person's actions show....

Momma Hunt said...

Ugh it is people like that who take the meaning out of church and make others want to stay away. Sorry this happened to you!

Brooke said...

I saw your tweet yesterday and I couldn't believe that someone had the nerve to say that period, let alone in church of all places.

I think people in general need to think before they speak. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

fritzfacts said...

I don't know if I told you this story before...
Growing up my mom would bring all three of us in the mass, and would take each of us out if we "acted up". When a new priest started one year he saw my mom get up and try to sneak out (I am sure it was not me, I was always an angel snort) and he stopped her cold. He told her flat out "Never feel you need to leave the sanctuary because your child is acting out. Embrace the fact that they have spirit, energy and are here. I would rather have a child that is acting out then no child at all. I want all the children in mass". He even went as far to take out the windows of the "quiet room" to prove his point.

E is the most wonderful child, and anyone who doesn't see this is short sited and needs to take a hard look. Glass houses and all that jazz.

Big hugs.