Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Mommy Weight Loss

I'm going to call my sister in law out a bit here.  I hope she doesn't mind, but a comment she made on facebook got me to thinking today, so I'm going to share my thoughts with you.  V knows that I love her, and value her support so I'm hope she won't be frustrated that I got annoyed today!

On Facebook this afternoon I posted the following:

Why am I always the most hungry the day before my next weigh in?! Must resist eating more food!

It's probably due to the stress of the upcoming weigh in.

Go to the gym instead. You'll feel much better!

Now firstly, this is almost certainly true.  I do get stressed about the upcoming weigh in.  And I know that working out does help, and would help in this case, with one exception.

I have no time to go to the gym today.

This isn't meant to be a whiny post but something of the reality of what it means to commit to losing weight as a mother.

My day today:
Get toddler up, get ready
Take toddler to daycare
Lunch at my desk
More work
Run to return a library book before it is overdue
Pick up toddler
Make dinner
Serve dinner
Take toddler to Tues music class
Get home
Toddler bedtime
(more toddler bedtime....)
(go to sleep already....)
clean up kitchen (this is still waiting actually)
log my dinner food
watch an hour of tv before crashing in bed.

Now I know, I KNOW, that I could do a DVD now instead of writing this post.  And I know that I probably good try to get up and workout at 5am, but the reality is that my sleep is important to my mental health, and the bit of tv with Mr. Goat is also important to my mental health.

Now, not every day is like this.  Sometimes I can get away over lunch and workout.  Mr. Goat and I have built family gym time into Monday, Thursday and Saturday.  I always try to workout on my day off Friday and on Sunday afternoon.  But Tuesday and Wednesday (church night) it is nearly impossible to schedule in.

And that is the crux of the issue.  I can't just "go to the gym" everything needs to be scheduled and planned for.  If I don't plan it I can't get it done, and Tues and Wed are the days I know that the gym is one too many things.  Instead I focus on my eating, and yes it sometimes means that I get hungry and worried about the upcoming weight loss.  But it is the reality of life with a small child and a full time job.

But really, is this much different than anyone's life?  If you want to go to the gym you MUST plan for it.  Otherwise it will be just another thing to try to squeeze into a too busy life.  I am learning to plan for it, and making the effort, but some days it just isn't feasible for me to go and still be the mother, wife and employee that I am needed to be.

Ok, rant over.  Tomorrow is weigh in day and I'm hopeful of dropping something despite the cold I've been fighting this week.  Either way, it is another week of tracking, working out, and changing my habits under my belt.


Valerie said...

I am not annoyed at all! In fact, after I wrote that comment I thought, "I hope that doesn't come off as too cocky." Then I realized that I wrote it because I wanted to go to the gym and couldn't fit it into my schedule (somehow waking up at 6:00, working all day, and going to the gym at 10:00 pm doesn't sound like fun).

That said, it also sounds like Tuesdays in general are pretty stressful. Is there anyway you could squeeze in a five minute walk just to clear your head? I'm lucky. When I need a walk, I just tell my clients that we're working outside, so put on your walking shoes.

If you can't squeeze another thing in (and I understand if you can't), just take 2 seconds to take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you had a lovely workout the day before (or maybe a couple days before), and enjoy the happy feeling / memory it brings you.

Good luck with everything today!

Emma said...

Being fit and being a mom is definitely a juggling act! For years, I ran six days a week without fail, and that simply isn't reasonable for me right now. On the days that I don't run, I walk to work. I know this isn't an option for you, but like Valerie said in her comment, maybe you could squeeze in a short walk sometime during your work day. This is not to say that you have to work out every day to be successful. There is nothing wrong with having planned days of rest. But if being active a little bit every day makes you feel better, then consider a walk. For me, it's perfect because I don't get all sweaty, so it's an efficient use of my precious time! Good luck with your weigh-in!

Casey@LoveWhatIs said...

On days like that, I pop myself a bowl of popcorn or eat a bunch of celery while I sit (um, lay) on the couch. I hope you're able to find something that works for you and releases some of the stress.

Angie said...

YES. Thank you for this! I'm living this right now and it's so hard to explain. I lost 100lbs before having a baby, and now trying to lose baby weight (and the 20lbs I had to gain to get pregnant).

I couldn't have been prepared for how much harder it is to lose now. Not as in the weight won't come off, but as in I just don't have the time to devote to it like I did before. Before, I could spend hours planning out grocery lists, meals, exercise, etc. Now? I've learned to be satisfied with a 30 minute workout and a can of soup.

There are days I physically cannot get to the gym- where as before, it was more of an excuse (too tired, too "busy", whatever). Now, my schedule most days looks very similar to yours. And our baby likes to go to bed at 6pm! And because he still doesn't sleep through the night, there is no "just get up early and workout!" because it's literally a need to get as much sleep as I physically can at this point.

All that to say, I'm with you. You're not alone! This really struck a cord with me because I'm in the midst of it right now too :) Trying to figure it out each day at a time!

Find out your ideal weight said...

Maintaining your weight is a huge factor that is a MUST. While your young, you should be learning to control your daily food intakes.

Wanda said...

I know exactly how this feels. Finding something that works for you isn't exactly easy too.