It is no surprise to anyone that I am an introvert. I can do very well in one-on-one conversations, particularly if you are already an acquaintance, but most of the time being around people is just exhausting to me. I can do it and have fun doing it, but afterward I just need a nap and a chance to recharge.
Being an introvert didn't do much when I had an infant. Their interactions are not so mental mostly. I could be alone with my thoughts while cuddling a sleeping child. Oh sure, I was physically exhausted but it wasn't a social interaction exhaustion.
But as little goat grows I realize that toddlers are not as introvert friendly. Toddlerhood is something that demands attention, and is verbal enough to call for it frequently (and frankly if it gets too quiet then you best track down your toddler stat because trouble is afoot). In fact, this clip is pretty much verbatim of life with a toddler some days.
It is wonderful, it really is, but it is easy to get stretched thin. So Friday was a wonderful day for me - I actually had a day off where I didn't have plans, appointments or have to go into work anyway. Little goat still went to day care and I had a gray drizzly day to myself.
First I went back to bed for an hour. Then I read for another hour. Then I headed out to the gym and had a long workout, just me and HGTV. Then lunch - Subway and my book again. Finally a pedicure with a gift card I had. And I didn't chat with the nail tech, I just read my book and recharged. I didn't go on twitter, or the blogs, or the computer all day. Finally, I finished my book and an ice cream sundae and finally went to pick up little goat.
By the time I did I felt full and happy and ready to dive into being mom, wife, Children's Ministry director, friend, and all of those things again full time.
And you know what, even though we had a busy and fairly social weekend it is now Monday and I am still smiling. Which just goes to show that you can't really change who you are, but you can know enough about yourself to give you the emotional full necessary to be the best you can be. It means caring for yourself to give you the tools to succeed. And for me, that means the occasional day, afternoon, or hour where I don't have to talk to anyone but myself.
What does self care look like to you and how will you plan for some in your week this week?