Tuesday, September 21, 2010

A Working Mom's Vent

I am not here to debate the Stay at home, Work outside the home, Work from home, thing.  Let's face it, motherhood is work.  You are always a full time mom even if you work outside the home. And I make no claims that one is easier than the other, they are different in their challenges.  And it is a pointless question for me too as staying at home is not feasible at our current place in life.  And honestly I'm no longer sure what I would pick.  Some days I lean one way, some days the other.  But that is not the issue I bring forward today.  Instead, my question is simple:

Why are there not parent/child classes scheduled at times for working parents to attend?

Seriously!  I have yet to be able to take an ECFE class, swimming lesson or Kindermusik class with baby goat and I want to.  I want to take a class with him. I want to meet other parents and children in a class and form a community for him.  Yes,we have a daycare community.  And yes, baby goat gets some of the same socialization that is important for him from those classes in daycare, but I still miss it.

There are a few classes I've found but they fill so quickly and even then are hard to make work in a schedule.   Assuming commute, dinner, travel time and bedtime the evening is almost over even when it has just begun. And Saturday classes fill so fast if you aren't on top of things you won't get in.

Is it so wrong to want to have the same opportunities to show my child the love of learning as my Stay at home peers do?  Have I missed a set of Twin Cities classes that might work?  Am I the only one who finds this frustrating?


iamcinnamom said...

I hear ya. We took Music Together (loved it!) classes with Sadie for a year and are now doing gymnastics. You're right, it is a challenge and session times are harder to
come by. But somehow, once you've made that commitment and you see the joy and growth in your child, it makes it worth all the craziness of making it work. Take the leap and sign up for something. You won't regret it.

simplicity said...

I would call your local community ed or park and rec dept and let them know that you would like to see more classes at better times for working families. Our ECFE programs do a great job of offering day and evening courses BUT you do have to be on the ball. Even for day classes, I have to sign up at midnight (when registration opens) the first day.
Good luck!

Anonymous said...

It's probably the people who teach the classes want to get home to their kids....or that finding people to teach evenings/weekends is hard. I hate it when I work evenings and I don't even have kids.

PikaPikaChick said...

Totally with you on this. It's super frustrating knowing that when we get swimming lessons for Lily we're probably have to shell out the big money for Foss because the Y has so few evening/weekend classes available. Aren't we full-time-working parents in the majority here in America? It just doesn't make sense.

Soupy said...

that's part of the reason we do Baby ballroom -it's VERY similar to an ECFE class w/the songs, music, etc. it's tough because it's up in St Paul on MOndays at 6, but we've made it a part of our routine to eat before then do class, etc. and that's how we met Mazzy!

I can give you more info if you'd like. BUT- I hear your frustrations because I also feel them! It's tough! But know you are doing fun things w/him!!

Emma said...

I'm wrestling with this, too. My daughter is actually going to start going to ECFE w/ my mom while I'm at work. I hope that I can find a class to do with her sometime this year, too!

Tina said...

I have been pleasantly surprised that our local park and rec (Brooklyn Park) has a good offering of evening classes. We have had our daughter in many things over the years that we could do in the evening. Maybe a neighboring community has better options for you?

fritzfacts said...

Oh how I am in full agreement with you! For years I tried to find a mom and me swim class to no avail. I ended up waiting for Boo to be older in order for her to take a swim class on her own. It was not fun.

That has been my constant frustration with working, which I am glad to do.

scrubmama said...

I hear ya, Liz! I totally would have loved to go to La Leche League meetings with Sunshine had they not been scheduled on random TUESDAY MORNINGS!