Monday, May 17, 2010

Couch to 5k - Week 6

Blogland we have a problem.  Now I will give you at the start that this week wasn't quite as big a fail as last week but it was still a fail.  I ran on Wednesday and did a great workout.  I was running a touch faster than before and while it was a week 1 work out still I even walked longer at the end to build up a little more endurance.  Despite the fact that I hadn't worked out until Wed I was encouraged.

And the rest of the week...nothing.  Well not nothing exactly.  I had meetings until 9:30pm on Thursday.  I sent my hubby to a Saints game Friday night and had some issues that kept me from walking with baby goat before his bedtime.  Then I was stuck at the apartments sans treadmill.  Saturday we walked all around the zoo for 3 hrs.  Often carrying my increasingly heavy toddler.  So I got exercise (and certainly did sweat) but I didn't work out.  Sunday I woke up with a cold.

Some of this stuff was known, some was last minute plans but I'm really disappointed that I haven't been able to get this going.  I've done a week 2 workout once! once!  Fellow challenge members are on weeks 4 or 5 or even just 2 but they seem to be breezing by me on the way to this 5k goal.  On the other hand I feel like I'm stuck.  I so want to do this, an I want to do it now, at this time of conviction and belief that I can.  I don't want to put it off until life calms down.  But life makes it so hard.

It seemed like an impossible goal from the start.  6 weeks in and virtually no progress to show for it makes it seem even more impossible.  I'm not giving up but I'm just frustrated.  Every workout must be timed between work, daycare, baby's bedtime, my own bedtime, housework and everything else.  I try to be respectful of Mr. Goat's time.  I don't want to make him put the baby to bed each night so I can go run, but it means squeezing things in when I can.  It often means feeling guilty when I am working out and when I'm not.

It is frustrating because I've been trying so hard to give myself attainable goals.  I know my own tendencies to give up when the health journey becomes too overwhelming, but lately it seems as though I simply fail at the easy health goals too.

There must be a balance somewhere but today at this point, I don't see it.  I do have a cold, complete with cough and lung issues but I'm hoping to walk tonight and give it a go.  Maybe if this week can get a good jump start I'll be able to get 3 workouts in.  I hope.

Anyone have any advice or support?  How do you balance it all?

Also, please link up to a post if you are still doing this and add your info to this post here - I'm still working on the little list of those us doing this challenge and hope to get it up this week.


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19 comments:

darcie said...

I hear ya babe. I've been doing C25k for TWO YEARS now - and still couldn't run a 5k all the way through.
If it's not one thing it's another.

We've still got time - hang in there ~ it's never too late to start over - at least that's what I keep telling myself...

Miss K said...

It's so hard to carve out the time. I've had to stop b/c of sickness and now my husband is temporarily unable to watch the kids while I run. It so frustrating.

Monkeymama said...

It's tough to make time to work out - I've never been very good at it.

The one thing that stuck out to me in your post - does Mr. Goat mind taking the bedtime routine?

I know that over the years (years?!) that bedtime is one area where we've had different parent routines at different stages. Sometimes we both do equal amounts, sometimes the kids just need or want one of us, sometimes it is a busy season for one of us and the other takes the majority of bedtimes.

If he doesn't mind, you could just resolve that during the bedtime routine on 3 nights a week, or whatever, you'd work out - then you'd have the time set aside and it wouldn't be like you were pushing it off on him.

Good luck!

Cheryl S. said...

Re-evaluating goals and making necessary adjustments is something I've had to do also...and it is so frustrating when our limitations smack us in the face and force a change in plans.

Jumping off Missy's post about it being okay to say 'no', I think sometimes we also have to say 'please help'. If hubby putting the kids to bed three times a week so you can get your C25K walk/run in is what it takes, I say ask away. Give him some kind of trade-off that'll make it worth his while. Then stick to it.

Conversely, when you are sick, your body is trying to tell you something, usually REST. Gotta listen to that or the cycle of interruptions will be endless.

Rooting for you!

The Marketing Mama said...

Okay, I think we've been friends long enough that I can speak frankly. Liz --- there will NEVER be the right time, best time, easy time. There will only be the challenging times, the times you feel like you are sacrificing, the times you feel like you are burdening your husband.

I've been on this work out journey both married and single, and I gotta tell ya, it was much easier married.

I love you and I want you to succeed at this. I know you WANT to succeed. I have watched you struggle with getting healthy for years and I feel like you are right on the brink of DOING IT for the first time.

But you know what. You aren't going to. Unless you do one thing. Right now. Are you listening?

PUT YOURSELF FIRST.

It is the hardest thing to do as a woman, as a MOTHER, as a wife.

But you can do it - because, Liz, NO ONE else is going to do it for you.

You know what helps me? When I get MAD. Get Angry. Quit worrying and wondering and GET PISSED OFF. Mad that I held onto the baby weight for so long. MAD that I wasn't setting a good example for my kids. MAD that I was still putting awful food in my mouth (Bags at a time) every frickin day and then making excuses why I couldn't work out.

Liz, I want you to do this. I know you can do this. But you have to be willing to stop worrying about if baby goat is gonna get all his food groups at dinner or if Mr. goat is gonna be upset for having to put the baby to bed.

Make a plan. Three days a week. Name them in advance. Tell him your plan. On those nights from x - x p.m., you will be leaving. You trust him to take care of the baby.

You are doing this for YOU and you are doing it for them. Your husband loves you and he will admire you, Liz, for your strength. For doing it.

You can do this. I believe it. Now I want you to believe it.

Elizabeth Harty said...

I've been struggling, too, in the last couple of weeks. I was down with a bad cold and have been off the treadmill or any workout for 14 days now. And I don't have a husband or responsible for any children.
Hang in there - you're doing the work as best you can. And you have a lot of people supporting you!

Yo' Poppa said...

Listen to Marketing Mama!

Jen, a priorfatgirl said...

I'm gonna follow Missy's lead & start with some seriousness. Life happens. Forever, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, something will always come up. There will always be a reason not to work out, a priority that seems to demand your attention first, and a cold. I promise one thing: it will never get easier to work out. This is your life. At some point, you will need to look at your to-do list and decide what order to cross things off. If push comes to shove, you may have to get up earlier to get the workout in or...stay up late. You are the only one who can do what you have to do to get it in.

Now...now that that's said, please no that you are not the only one going through this. Losing weight is the easy part, it is the mental struggle of actually convincing oneself to work out that is tough. The good news is that you are stopping to reflect. Change something, figure out what you can do to get it in. And, remember...we believe in you!

Hyacynth said...

Because you asked, I'll say what I think will really help:
internalize every.single.word @marketingmama wrote. She is so wise.
As a health coach, my biggest challenge is never ever how much weight someone has to lose; the biggest obstacle is always within her own mind. We call them excuses commonly in society, but it's so much more than that. It's really disbelief, disbelief that we can do something, disbelief that we can change, disbelief that we really might actually NEED to say to ourselves that we can have no excuses.
This may seem like a physical battle, but the real one is in the mind.
I hope we can still be friends because it's tough to say this stuff in a comment when we cannot hear the sincerity in my voice or see the understanding in my eyes. I've been there. I'm still there sometimes. It's a long road, but it is worth every stinking step.
Be encouraged. :)

Amelia Sprout said...

The only way that I am able to do it is because A makes my doing it a priority too. He does the bedtimes or most of the bedtime (I make it home right before or slightly after depending on when we finish dinner) so that I reach my goals. If he supports you, then don't feel guilty. Do what you need to be healthy.

Oh, and everything Missy said too.

CBerbs said...

A couple things you said stuck out to me. One, you pointed out that you were working until 9:30 and then had to go running. Do you have a treadmill or access to one in your housing complex? Sometimes not having to leave home makes that goal more attainable. Two, you say you're running a bit faster. When I found myself struggling, I had to give up any sort of speed goals. I decided my goal was time/distance. No matter how slow I had to go, I always felt better if I could "run" (and sometimes it was barely within the realm of what someone could call running) the whole running segment without stopping even if it was barely a run. Third, you say you don't want your husband to have to do bedtime every night. Is this something you and he could agree on? Could he agree that every night you run for these 12 weeks (or however long it takes) he will do bedtime as a way of supporting your fitness goal?

I think that it's also important to remember that every day you exercise and take care of yourself you are healthier than the day before. Some people's bodies show the changes more quickly, but that's not why you're doing this. You're doing it for you, and every day you choose to exercise whether it be to walk, run, climb, lift, swim, bike, or whatever it is you choose you are making progress toward your goal.

Valerie said...

First of all, read my blog this week. You're not the only one who's stuck.

Second of all, these comments are fantastic. Everyone who's commenting has some extremely valid, amazing point.

We all know how hard you're working, and we all know how much you give up for your family and your job. Keep in mind, though, that giving up your health doesn't help anyone.

You need to be healthy for you. You need to be healthy for your son. You need to be healthy for your husband/job/family/friends. Working out and doing this program isn't just another obligation. It's you time. It's a few moments a few days a week for you to just spend with you and regroup. Sometimes that can mean processing your thoughts. Sometimes that can mean ignoring the world (and smelling the roses). If you ever get on a stationary bike or elliptical that can also mean reading time. Whatever it is to you, it's important and nothing should come in the way. I know it's hard to do (I'm obviously having trouble with it), but you need to put YOU first! Everything else will magically fall into place after that.

Kate said...

Maybe subconsciously you posted this as a means to get the tough love and motivation you need, because honey.... you've been getting it from all angles!!

And I am going to add mine. LIFE IS NEVER GOING TO CALM DOWN.

I read that line and actually laughed out loud. It's like insanely crazy that anyone can determine the right time to do anything. LIFE does not HAPPEN on anyone's planned schedule. It's happening RIGHT NOW and you're just making excuses as to why you can't do this, why you shouldn't do that and blah blah blah.

Missy's advice is spot-on, and something you need to seriously pay attention to doing. MAKE your schedule, MAKE THE TIME and then when it comes, WALK OUT THE DOOR. This is YOUR LIFE. This is YOUR GOAL. Stop putting everything else first and step up to the head of the line. YOU need to be #!, YOU need to be the priority.

YOU need to make yourself as important as you've made everyone else, only more so. STOP with the EXCUSES. And GET MOVING.

(This message was said with all the love in my heart I could muster. XO to you!!)

Sharon said...

Sine, as everyone else has already pointed out, life will be constantly getting in your way, I like to try to put the workout as early in the day as possible. That way, as my priorities shift and I get more tired, that's one thing that's already taken care of. Especially since you're done pumping/nursing, this could be feasible. It does mean waking up early, which has its own baggage... I hate getting up extra early, but I loved knowing that by 8:00 a.m., I had accomplished all my physical goals for the day. And it gave me a nice boost of awakeness after the shower.

YOU CAN DO THIS! Hang in there, and don't give up.

Anonymous said...

Lots of great advice here. I'll just add in a little more...can you put Baby Goat in a jogging stroller and take him with you? Even if you don't jog with him, walking is good exercise. Can you exercise in the morning before everyone else gets up?

liz said...

This is all such good advice and I will echo Missy, Jen, and Kate especially. I think we (all of us, not just you!) wrongly assume that people who exercise have more free time/are less busy than people who don’t exercise. Not true. They are just as busy as everyone else. But they fit it in somehow. When I am being diligent with exercise (which isn’t always), I am best at it when I exercise early in the morning before everyone else gets up. It also makes the rest of my day feel that much more in control, and I have much more energy to get everything else done. Prioritizing wellness makes the rest of my life feel less chaotic.

Make it a priority, schedule it in, honor it like you would honor any other appointment. You wouldn’t stand up a friend you were scheduled to meet – so don’t stand yourself up either. Now, if you are sick, that is a different story as I think our bodies tell us when they need rest. Give yourself time to rest and recuperate. I bet that as time goes on and you get healthier, you will find yourself sick less often.

Also, food for thought: were you exercising before you started the C25K? If not, I might suggest dialing it back a bit and getting used to a gentler regimen for a while. Walking 30 minutes at a brisk pace is a really, really good way to get fit and strong and is a lot easier to swallow than running if you are a beginner. It’s also easier to swallow if you’re feeling a bit under the weather. Could you give yourself a break from C25K for a few weeks and try walking 4-5 days a week?

Kristie said...

I'm right there with you Liz and I don't even have children to worry about. I have all kinds of excuses as to why I can't get exercise in but the truth of the matter is I am my own worst enemy. I could make time, I don't. I have time and I don't utilize it. I keep saying that I need to get this done or that done and you know what? At the end of the day I didn't exercise and I didn't get my to do list done either.

For me I have realized that I need some outside help, not with things around the house but with getting on track emotionally and mentally. I have some huge issues that I just need help with because no matter how much I try to say that this time things will be different, they aren't. I'm trying to get an appointment with a therapist to help me deal with my self esteem and self worth issues. I'm great at putting everyone else ahead of me. I don't put myself first and I don't know how to. It's really easy for me to put everyone else in front of me. It let's me off the hook for dealing with myself and I can't do that anymore. I have to deal with me.

If you ever need to talk you know how to get a hold of me. I understand where you are at.

Cindy said...

I'm a late poster. And you know why? Life got the best of me this week. I didn't work out much, I was tired and had things going on. But here's the deal - if you WANT to do this, you will. If you aren't consistent in training, it'll prove to be more difficult.

But, I know you can do it. I don't think it is too much to say, "Okay, I am taking 30 minutes for myself today" and go do the program. Sometimes I get up early, which is probably easy for me to say sans, children.

But at the end of the day, if you want to do it, you will. If you don't want to do it, you won't.

Melissa said...

I hear you honey, with all struggle with it even those that don't work. I wrote a piece on it over here :http://www.peanutbutterinmyhair.com/2009/08/love-yourself-enough.html

The truth is, if you don't love yourself to make the time to take care of yourself, what are you teaching your children? Do you want your children to think that love means giving up everything for someone? You can do it, and you and baby goat will both be better off for it.