Some people make friends easily. I have rarely been one of those people. An introverted nature combined a bit of anxiety at first meetings often means that I don't make a lasting impression. There have been times where I wonder if I am not better of taking a children's book approach to friend making and as everyone "Will you be my friend?" until I get an affirmative.
Sometimes it seems when you get to a new point in your life you need new friends that understand it. It isn't that you abandon your old friends, far from it, but rather you need friends that identify with what you are going through. 8 or 9 years ago was one of those times - the occasion: Mr. Goat and my upcoming wedding.
If you've ever planned a wedding or known a bride you know that weddings can lead even the most rational minds to a somewhat, er...focused...mind. That is that brides-to-be can talk at length about flowers, dresses, halls, caterers, favors, centerpieces. And the only one you can find to care - short of the mother of the Bride - are other brides.
Nine years ago found me on theknot.com on a chat board swapping ideas for our weddings. It lead to some real life friendships, a book club, an private online board, and eventually to blogging. It gave me strong friendships, something that I really needed now that I was out of school and living in a city where I didn't grow up.
It lead to my friendship with Emilie, and Missy, and countless others. And it lead to meeting new blogging friends as my circle of friends combines with their online circles. In a way, it is through Emilie and her story that my circle of friends continues to grow, even in her passing.
On Saturday night several of us got together to celebrate Emilie's birthday. Some of us were friends way back from theknot, and others I'd just met including Roxane and Marie who came all the way from ND! But we got together in mutual love of a fallen friend and as I told them, if they were friends with Emilie they are friends with me.